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T H I S W O R D: C O N T E X T

You know how different situations can have the same result and how we mainly tend to focus on that result other than the situation as a guideline for our next action?

For example in Geographical Location 1, lives girl called Mary and in Geographical Location 2 lives a boy named Liam. Both Mary and Liam were called by their parents respectively and both did not respond to the call. If this was a movie, probably some of the audience would say that the two children are disobedient because they seem to hear the call but do not make the tiniest effort to respond. Turns out that Mary was the one who intentionally ignored her parent’s call while Liam has a severe ear problem that his parent knew nothing about.

Good (insert appropriate time of day according to your location here),

This year I learnt a very important word. I actually thought there was no name for it though I have been seeing that word many..many…many times, since like six years ago, but I only got to understand what it means this year.

I happened to tell my ten year old brother “Once upon a time you had (insert something valuable)*…and now you don’t.”

Then he told me:

“That is not a good story because it does not explain what happened to the (something valuable)* what a smart comeback bro! In my head I was like “True true”

My story lacked..(drum roll please)…


What is context?

Context: the circumstances that form the setting for an event, statement or idea and in terms of which it can be fully understood and assessed.

Context is the main ingredient of everything – it is a universal ingredient. It is as important as the twist in literature. Context is what sets apart right from wrong, or Right (for a situation) from right (for a different situation). It is what gives meaning to a situation by setting it apart from another situation that seems similar.

Context is the foundation of everything. Since it is a very wide subject, I would really like to read what context means for you in the comment section below. You never know who your comment may end up helping.

Context explains:

why we eat what we eat

why we dress what we dress

why we behave the way we do

why we use the words we use

why we know what we know


An Update:

When designers are creating something for a client, they have to consider the client’s needs/context (which is the primary source), then use their context (what they know) while designing it. This is why two designers, even though designing the same thing for the same client, can not have identical outputs.

Thank you for your support so far.

With permission:

#AdelHanifa 🐣🐣🐣


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The best way to get to know someone’s story is by understanding their context. I would love to hear/read your opinion on the question:

Why is it difficult for people to leave an abusive environment (please include the setting in your comment)

Thank you in advance:):):):)

#AdelHanifa 🐣🐣🐣

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What I have learnt so far this year

I was going through my journal earlier today and I found a very important entry, and I thought to myself: why not take a picture of this…and I took it. Then I thought: why not share it…Here it is (Don’t mind the handwriting)

Basically all of them revolve around trusting God.

Am going to expound a little more on #2 and #7

#2: In my journey of finding God, my expectations exceeded my acceptance for the will of God..and I asked myself: why should I pray for something yet it might never happen?, Is there really need for prayer?..After a long struggle I learnt about finding the right balance between my expectations and God’s will for me.  I might pray not to face hardships in life but then again, how do I get to learn life lessons. If I trust that God has the best intentions for me, why should I dictate what He should include in my story? In as much as I want to have my version written…God’s version is the best version. I have limited knowledge and He knows everything; my heart, my past, the future and like the great designer He is, He will give me what suits me.

#7: A time comes when people feel it is the right time to start a family, and maybe one of their goals is to marry a believer. How can you tell a believer from a non-believer? Through their behaviour. But what if their behaviour does not show?

Let’s do the math:

If God knows what is in every heart (67:13), and He protects those who believe (2:257), there is no reason to worry and lose God while struggling to find what is hidden in someones heart.

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#AdelHanifa 🐣🐣🐣

PS: How much do you trust God?

PPS: (Very Important)Who is your God? (in terms of the attributes you personally (knowingly or unknowingly) give to God, because those attributes determine who your God is)

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I love the photograph above because it is a visual representation of this blog. Where I come from there are forests as such..thick forests. When outside the forest you can not see what or who is inside it. All you see is a gradient from the brightness of light to the pitch blackness of the dark. It is easy to assume that no one is in it, but it is only if you have ever been inside it that you get to know there is life there despite the darkness. 

The first item I published here is my poem VASED which am going to give a brief analysis because there is no better way to understand it other than getting its meaning from the one who wrote it: me. Vased is a poem that shows my self realization…why? I wrote it in third person, yet I lived it because I had to take a step back and view myself like an actor in a film, who had put all her eggs in one basket, all her hopes and dreams in this man, who was so comfortable that her only worry was which the next flower for her vase would be without knowing that her life is playing out in her hand, through that flower. Who somehow, without her realizing it is as shallow as the person who she has chosen to for-lack-of-a-better-word, worship. Why would she stare at the flowers in the garden if she really wanted to nuture the flower she already had in her vase? Why would she put all her hopes and dreams on this man if she really had faith in herself. Don’t get me wrong, this post/poem is not ment to attack but to challenge. To show us that we already have what it takes to be the best we can be, the difference is: Do you realize it?

If the lady in the poem realized it, she would not have put all her hopes and dreams on him, she would have attracted a ‘him’ who sees her worth through how she presents herself, and even if he were to leave her, she would not have suffered that much of a great loss. The flower in the first part of the poem is her..and she, is him. The way she threw the flower out of the vase was the same way she was thrown out of the house. The way she was always on the balcony searching for a replacement…was the same way he searched for her replacement.

My main point is, if I did not learn to see things from a different perspective, I wouldn’t have realized how much of myself I am missing. There wouldn’t even be this blog to begin with. No matter how you started out in life, you matter…you matter a lot more than you know. You do not want to miss out on yourself because you were busy trying to fit in. You already have what it takes, you just have to believe it. (this was my greatest lesson in December 2015…rings a bell?…12xv ) so get out of the forest and enjoy the light of a new dawn in your life.


PS: It all begins in you…fix your context, fix your life 🐣

PPS: We learn as we go :):):)

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T H E  L I G H T

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If people wrote my story, I could not be where I am today. I would probably be the character in the book where thunder struck and she never woke up. Life is like a race, and every change is a hurdle. The athlete uses a lot of energy to jump over those hurdles and yet the distance on the ground between the leap and the end of the jump might be very small. Hurdles are personal in every person’s life. What might be a hurdle to you might not be a hurdle to me..and what is a hurdle to me might not be a hurdle to you. We are all different and we have different lives and experiences. We all look different, come from different parts of the world, believe in different things and all this influences our experiences, our education, how we talk, how we respond to problems in our lives, how strong we are and become.

We all lack in something, we are human, we don’t expect to be perfect. We only see now, we can not see the ‘after-now’. We can not tell a person’s future by just looking at them and their present, we only know the story in parts.But there is the one that knows everything, the one who created us- designed every part of us, our lives, knows our experiences, knows every hurdle we have jumped over, has heard silent cries, knows our hopes and dreams and has seen them crush and burn through our eyes, has heard every word spoken to us, and He is THE LIGHT.

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Everyone experiences God differently. Faith in God is personal, it is between an individual and God, after all, it is God who can see through a person’s heart and know how much the individual trusts Him despite their experiences and shortcomings (lesson by my friend El).

Until you experience God, by experience I mean shifting focus to what God has been doing in your life, you may never understand Him. For me God is THE LIGHT. He made me see what I could not see about myself. By getting to know Him better, I understood that every negative thing that has been spoken upon my life actually does not exist, because…(very dramatic pause)…He is the author of my life. He is the one who knows what He is preparing me for. He knows my purpose. That is why I should not dwell on the negative because life is meant to be lived and not survived. He knows why everyone goes through what they go through and went through what they went through. He can see the whole picture while we only see lines and dots. No one’s story is less important or more important than the other..they are just different, and uncomparable, and beautiful. Everyone is in a storm of their own. You either understand your situation and find a way to live (by finding God)..or despair and drown.

People have the words, but He owns the pen. Only He can write the story. Your story, my story, everyone’s story.



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Hi there,

There is nothing as crippling as child abuse. It is like you have a home but you don’t. You have a care giver – but you don’t. You are free but in a cage. You have a life but you don’t. Whatever is happening to you is normal, but you do not know it is not. You have no comparison memories of yourself that you can look back to. You do not understand why children in school are happy to go home yet they are disciplined ‘same’ as you. You do not understand why you can not concentrate in class because you are trying to make memories in your head. You do not undersand why your school performance is very poor. You being timid invites bullying in your life, unhealthy relationships….I could go on and on. (Book coming soon)

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It takes a long time for some people to draw a line between abuse, and things that mean well like instilling discipline. “They just want me to be a better person when I grow up” and the poor souls quote gold and how it is passed through fire as they make excuses for the bite marks on their wrists. Whenever you find that you can not answer the question “Who am I” it is time to wake up and find yourself. The world might not revolve around you but your world does. Get out there and claim your space because you deserve it!.